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Sex and Sexuality.

Let’s take a ride on the honesty train!
I won’t pretend to know what it’s like to be confused about my sexuality or gender, and I don’t pretend to understand the pressures of society, friends and family with regard to it. Whether you’re homosexual or heterosexual is not my concern… It’s none of my business and, personally, I’m just glad I don’t have the job of judging the world … even though I admittedly have a go at it once in a while… But not in the way you’d imagine.

Sexual preference is the least of my concerns when I look at what’s going on in the news, on social media and all around me today. What matters more to me, is the attitudes that people have toward sex and sexuality in general. A sexual and intimate experience with another human being is supposed to be an experience that is always a reflection of the deepest love, utmost respect and highest honour, an experience that is safe, beautiful and, from a Christian perspective, sacred.

It’s the belief around sex and sexuality that I find disturbing. What causes someone to believe that if they’re  confused about their sexuality, they should throw themselves into promiscuity, gaining as many sexual experience with as many different people in order to figure it out, or to ‘discover’ this ‘other’ side of themselves? What causes a man to believe it’s ok to convince the girl he’s dating to sleep with him, when they’ve never even verbally expressed their love for each other? What makes men and women impatient, willing to settle for less than God’s best for them? What makes people believe that sex is nothing but a natural instinct or appetite, or that we can ‘get away with it’ because of God’s grace?

A lot of damage and hurt can come from humans being irresponsible, disrespectful and promiscuous, and I think we should all stop pretending that this casual approach to sex is doing anyone any good! I have far more respect for homosexuals who truly honour and understand the correct context for sexual expression, than any other type of sexually immoral practise.

It’s not the easiest thing to do, and I have most certainly failed more than once, but every failure has helped me to trust God more. Every day I decide to put aside my own ‘desires’, I decide to be patient, and i decide to try my best to honour God with my heart, my mind and my whole body. I try my best to choose God over flesh, and trust in His goodness and love for me.

The attempt at chastity or purity remains virtuous, regardless of sexual preference, and this complete disregard for the sacredness of sexuality and sex in our modern day culture is, I believe, the saddest state of all.

Jolene.

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